Perfectionist: lub ntsiab lus ntawm lub ntsiab lus
Qee tus neeg nug: leej twg yog tus kws tshaj lij? Ua li no, nws yog ib qho tsim nyog los txhais ib lub tswv yim ntxiv: perfectionism (los ntawm Fabkis. perfection - perfection) - ib tug siab siab rau tib neeg perfection nyob rau hauv tag nrho nws cov yeeb yam thiab tus cwj pwm tsim los ntawm upbringing thiab ib puag ncig. Yog li ntawd, ib tug perfectionist yog ib tug neeg uas yog characterized los ntawm perfectionism. Nws ntseeg txog qhov ua tau thiab qhov tsim nyog ntawm kev ua tiav kev ua tiav, ua ntej ntawm txhua yam ntawm nws tus kheej. Txawm li cas los xij, ntau tus kws tshawb fawb txog kev puas siab puas ntsws ntseeg tias kev ua kom zoo tag nrho tsis yog kev tsim txiaj, tab sis yog qhov teeb meem loj ntawm tus kheej uas ua rau tus kheej tsis txaus siab ntawm tus kheej, thiab tseem cuam tshuam rau cov txiaj ntsig ntawm nws cov dej num. Lub perfectionist tsis pom "golden txhais tau tias", nws tsuas muaj ob lub siab: qhov phem tshaj plaws thiab qhov zoo tshaj plaws - nws lub hom phiaj. Nws tsis pom grey, rau nws tsuas muaj dub thiab dawb xwb. Rau nws, tsuas muaj "zoo tagnrho" thiab "tsis yog zoo tagnrho", thiab "tsis yog zoo tagnrho" yog txhua yam tshwj tsis yog qhov zoo tagnrho. Hauv lwm lo lus, nws siv zog ua txhua yam zoo kawg nkaus, zoo dualwm tus, los sis tsis ua dab tsi hlo li, thiab nws yeej paub meej txog qhov no. Nws pom kev thov kev pab raws li qhov tsis muaj zog.
Perfectionist - nws yog leej twg?
Nov yog ib tug neeg uas xav ua tsis tau dab tsi dua li ua tiav yam tsis tiav. Tus uas nws xav teem unrealistically siab lub hom phiaj rau nws. Perfectionists yog rhiab rau pej xeem kev xav. Tej kev thuam ua rau lawv raug mob. Perfectionists sim zais lawv qhov tsis zoo ntawm lwm tus. Lawv ntshai kom nthuav tawm lawv qhov tsis muaj zog. Yog li ntawd, lawv ua txhua yam hauv lawv lub hwj chim kom ua neeg zoo tag nrho. Kev ua tsis tiav lossis ua tsis tiav qhia lawv tias lawv tsis tuaj yeem txhim kho lawv tus kheej. Yog li ntawd, lawv xav tias tsis muaj nqis thiab kev hwm tus kheej poob qis.
Koj txiav txim siab li cas lo lus "perfectionist" siv rau koj li cas? Leej twg yog tus no thiab yuav qhia nws li cas?
1) Koj muaj lub luag haujlwm, ntshai ua yuam kev, koj tau mob siab rau cov ntsiab lus.
2) Koj siv zog ua txhua yam kom zoo tshaj plaws, zoo meej.
3) Koj siv sijhawm ntau dhau los ua ib yam dab tsi zoo.
4) Koj tau tsim lub hom phiaj tiag tiag, thaum txhua yam tsis tuaj yeem lees txais rau koj.
5) Koj yog koj tus kheej harshest thuam.
6) Koj nkag siab qhov kev thuam ntawm lwm tus.
7) Koj ib txwm sawv cev rau lub hom phiaj kawg, cov kauj ruam nruab nrab tsis muaj teeb meem rau koj.
Yuav ua li cas yog tias kev ua tiav tsis yog ib txwm ua haujlwm? Xav txog seb lub ntiaj teb yuav zoo li cas yog tias tsis muaj tej hauj lwm loj ntawm lub ntiaj teb nontawv, painting, architecture, tsis muaj zoo thiab zoo composers? Cia peb saib qhov no los ntawm ib qho kev xav txawv. Perfectionist - yog leej twg? Qhov no yog ib tug txiv neej ntawm creativity, creator, creator. Tus tsim tsuas yog yuav tsum yog tus kws tshaj lij, txwv tsis pub tus kws sau ntawv uas tsim nws txoj haujlwm tuaj yeem yoj tes thiab hais tias, sau rau thawj zaug: "nws yuav ua li ntawd" lossis "tsis ua li cas." Peb puas tuaj yeem tau nyeem Faust, Notre Dame, yog tias Goethe thiab Hugo tsis yog tus kws tshaj lij? Peb puas tseem tuaj yeem pom Mona Lisa tam sim no, yog tias da Vinci txiav txim siab tsis ua kom tiav cov duab ntawm lub ntsej muag luag ntxhi ntawm tus poj niam hais saum toj no?
Peb yuav tsis tau hnov "Lub Plaub Hlis" yog Vivaldi, thaum xyaum nkauj laus ncas, hais tias: "Kuv yuav tsis xyaum, thiab yog li ntawd nws yog qhov qub." Yog li, perfectionism yog qhov zoo tsuas yog hauv qee qhov chaw ntawm peb lub neej uas xav tau qhov zoo tshaj plaws los siv zog rau. Txawm li cas los xij, hauv lub neej zoo tib yam nws nyuaj heev kom ua tiav qhov zoo tshaj plaws, vim hais tias lub neej uas peb nyob yog deb ntawm qhov zoo tagnrho. Yog li nws puas tsim nyog pub koj tus kheej nrog qhov tsis muaj qab hau? Kuv puas yuav tsum nyob thiab txaus siab rau txhua yam me me?
