Vladimir Shakhidzhanyan, "Kev kawm hais lus rau pej xeem". Psychologist Vladimir Shahidzhanyan: txoj kev

2024 Tus sau: Miguel Ramacey | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 06:20

"Tej zaum peb yuav tsum pib nrog cov lus qhia ntse? Nyob rau hauv rooj plaub no, koj raug pov hwm tiv thaiv tsis ua hauj lwm, "hais tias Vladimir Vladimirovich Shahidzhanyan. Hloov chaw, qhov no yog ib qho ntawm nws thawj cov lus qhia. Tsis tsim nyog, puas yog? Thaum peb yuav tsum hais lus rau cov neeg tuaj saib lossis hais lus, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom pib txoj cai. Qhov no tam sim ntawd muab tus neeg hais lus rau cov neeg mloog, ua rau lawv mloog thiab ua rau muaj kev khuv leej.

Tau kawg, qhov kev xav zaum kawg tsuas yog nyob ntawm cov ntsiab lus thiab kev nthuav qhia ntawm koj cov lus hais tom ntej. Txawm li cas los xij, qhov pib yog yuav ua rau koj muaj kev ntseeg siab ntawm tus kheej, taw qhia koj mus rau qhov raug thiab tsim kev sib cuag nrog cov neeg tuaj saib. Thiab qhov no yog ib nrab ntawm kev sib ntaus sib tua, vim tias thaum koj hais lus ywj pheej, koj muaj lub sijhawm zoo los qhia koj cov lus kom zoo li sai tau.

Nyob rau tus sau

Vladimir Shakhidzhanyan cov lus qhia yuav muaj txiaj ntsig tsis yog rau cov tib neeg uas nquag hais lus rau pej xeem, tab sis kuj rau txhua tus neeg uas xav hais lus zoo hauv txhua lub neej - nrog cov txheeb ze, phooj ywg, tom tsev kawm ntawv thiab hauv pab pawg ua haujlwm. Yeej muaj chaw rau kev hloov pauv zoo.

Tus sau phau ntawv "Learn to Speak in Public" - Vladimir Shakhidzhanyan, thaum muaj 63 xyoos, txuas ntxiv txhim kho. Tsis muaj kev txaj muag, nws hais tias cov txheej txheem no tuaj yeem txuas ntxiv mus tsis kawg. Ib tug neeg sau xov xwm thiab kws kho hlwb, Shakhidzhanyan paub los ntawm nws tus kheej kev paub yuav ua li cas kawm hais lus hauv txoj kev nkag mus tau zoo thiab zoo siab. Kawm los ntawm kos. Vim qhov xwm txheej nyuaj ntawm nws thaum yau (nws loj hlob nyob rau hauv lub nroog Leningrad), nws pib hais lus lig thiab hais lus tsis txaus siab txog thaum muaj hnub nyoog 12.

Shakhidzhanyan tau tshem tawm ntawm kev hais lus tsuas yog thaum muaj hnub nyoog 19, tab sis nws qhov txaj muag tseem nyob. Tab sis nws muaj kev ntshaw rau pej xeem, muaj kev xav uas yuav tsum tau qhia, thiab nws pib ua kom nws hais lus, kawm cov phau ntawv hais txog kev hais lus, mus koom cov kev kawm hauv theem hais lus. Nyob rau hauv nws lub neej, nws yog ib tug neeg sau xov xwm, tus thawj coj, thiab xov tooj cua tus tswv, thiab tam sim no qhia ib tug tshwj xeeb seminar nyob rau hauv psychology ntawm journalistic creativity ntawm Moscow State University.

Kev xyaum yog qhov tseem ceeb

Lub ntsiab lus tseem ceeb ntawm Vladimir Shakhidzhanyan yog tias koj, raws li ib tug menyuam kawm ntawv, siab ntseeg nws thiab xyaum txhua yam uas nws tau hais. Tsuas yog hauv qhov no koj yuav tau txais txiaj ntsig tseem ceeb.

Txoj kev Shahidjayan, yog tias txhua qhov kev tawm dag zog ua haujlwm tsis tu ncua, yuav txhim kho, txawm tias koj nyob qib twg tam sim no. Koj tuaj yeem kov yeej kev txaj muag thiab kev ntshai nyob rau pem hauv ntej ntawm cov neeg coob coob, lossis koj tuaj yeem kawm ua kom cov neeg coob coob.

Phau ntawv muaj cov kev tawm dag zog los txhim kho thiab txhawb kev hais lus rau pej xeem. Tsis tas li ntawd,Vladimir Shakhidzhanyan xav kom kawm nrog lub suab kaw ua ke, vim tsis muaj dab tsi qhia peb peb qhov yuam kev zoo li peb tus kheej saib los ntawm sab nraud.

Koj yuav tshem tau cov kab mob kab mob

Vladimir Shakhidzhanyan yuav qhia koj hais lus kom raug, thiab nws txoj kev yuav ua kom muaj kev hais lus dawb huv. Lub pob tshab ntawm kev hais lus feem ntau nyob ntawm txoj kev peb siv. Ib pawg ntawm cov lus tsis tsim nyog thiab cov kab lus, zoo li cov ntoo tuab hauv hav zoov, tiv thaiv tus neeg mloog los ntawm kev hla koj cov kab lus, ua rau nws nyuaj rau kev nkag siab. Thaum ib kab lus muaj ntau cov lus tsis tsim nyog thiab cov ntaub ntawv me me, cov neeg tuaj saib tau txais kev so thiab nres tsom mus rau qhov kev nthuav qhia. Qhov no yog fraught nrog poob ntawm cov xov ntawm koj zaj dab neeg los ntawm cov neeg mloog, lawv poob tawm ntawm lub sij hawm thiab pace uas koj narrating.

Cov yeeb ncuab loj tshaj plaws ntawm kev nkag siab zoo yog, tau kawg, cov lus kab mob (nrog rau cov kab mob parasitic interjections). Lawv qhia txog koj txoj kev ntxhov siab, tsis muaj kev tswj hwm thiab tsis npaj txhij, cuam tshuam rau cov neeg tuaj saib. Nyob rau hauv phau ntawv Kawm Hais Lus Hauv Pej Xeem, Vladimir Shakhidzhanyan kuj hais tias cov ntsiab lus tseem ceeb ntawm kev hais lus suav nrog tsis yog cov lus kab mob nkaus xwb, tab sis kuj yog cov lus uas tsis nqa ib qho kev sib tw lossis kev hais lus. Ntseeg kuv, cov neeg tuaj saib yuav ua tsaug ntau yog tias koj tsis nkim lawv lub sijhawm thiab kev saib xyuas ntawm kev hloov pauv, kev thov txim tsis tsim nyog thiab cov lus tsis tsim nyog.

Koj yuav hais lus rau lub ntsiab lus

Koj puas tau coj cov neeg tuaj saib deb ntawm lub ntsiab lus nrog koj lub laj thawj?Koj puas tau delved rau hauv xws li hloov maj mam thiab cov ncauj lus kom ntxaws ntawm lub ncauj lus hauv kev sib tham uas koj tuaj yeem sau ib phau ntawv cais txog lawv? Nws puas pab koj ua tiav qhov xav tau thaum koj ua haujlwm? Tau kawg tsis. Xws li demagogy ua tim khawv rau koj frivolity, unpreparedness thiab txawm impoliteness rau cov neeg tuaj saib. Shakhidzhanyan Vladimir Vladimirovich yuav qhia koj yuav ua li cas hais lus rau lub ntsiab lus, thiab yuav ua li cas qhia koj cov kev xav kom meej meej, meej thiab tib lub sij hawm concisely.

Koj cov lus yuav dhau los ua kev xav thiab ntxias

Vim li cas tib neeg hnov txawv rau tib lo lus? Vim hais tias cov lus no tau hais nrog cov lus sib txawv. Txhawm rau kom muaj kev txaus siab, kev koom tes, koj yuav tsum ua kom muaj kev xav zoo hauv tib neeg thaum koj hais lus - txawm tias nws yog kev xyiv fab lossis kev tu siab. Thiab txhawm rau kom tau txais kev txaus siab ntawm cov neeg tuaj saib, koj yuav tsum coj cov kev xav no rau hauv koj cov lus. Lawv ua siab ncaj ntau, qhov zoo dua, tau kawg, tab sis koj puas tau tswj xyuas kom muaj kev cuam tshuam txawm tias koj lub siab nyiam thiab ntuj tsim? Qee lub sij hawm lawv tsuas ua rau peb tsis meej pem. Txawm hais tias lawv muaj zog lossis qaug zog, peb tsis tuaj yeem paub tseeb tias peb cov lus qhia haum rau lub siab yog tias peb tsis muaj kev tswj hwm.

Vladimir Shakhidzhanyan tseem yuav qhia koj yuav ua li cas nthuav tawm cov khoom kom ua tiav koj lub hom phiaj. Ib qho kev xav thiab kev hais lus zoo, sau tau zoo, hais meej, thiab tag nrho ntawm cov ntsiab lus tseem ceeb, tseem yuav tsis ua rau qhov koj xav tau. Vim muaj coob leej ntau tus zoo siab los mloog kojkev hais lus zoo (qhov tseem ceeb, txawm tias npaj los yog ua tsis tau), tseem nyiam ua kev xav thiab ua raws li tus kheej lub tswv yim.

Txhawm rau txhawm rau txhawm rau txhim kho lawv txoj kev nkag siab ntawm kev sib koom siab thiab kev ntseeg ntawm ib yam dab tsi lossis, txawm tias nyuaj dua, txhawm rau tawm tsam lossis ua kom ntseeg siab, koj yuav xav tau kev paub tshwj xeeb ntawm tib neeg lub siab ntsws thiab lub peev xwm siv nws, nrog rau kev txav mus los. sib txuas lus nrog cov neeg tuaj saib ntawm cov lus nws nkag siab. Vladimir Shakhidzhanyan qhia yuav ua li cas ua tiav qhov no hauv txoj kev yooj yim thiab siv tau.

Koj cov lus yuav nkag siab

Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas cov lus hais tau yooj yim to taub los ntawm cov neeg mloog. Yuav kom ua tau li no, koj yuav tsum hais ib yam lus raws li cov neeg koj tab tom tham. Qhov no txhais tau tias koj cov lus yuav tsum tsis txhob saturated nrog cov lus tsis tsim nyog. Los yog, hloov pauv, nrog cov neeg tuaj saib uas xav tau qee yam ntawm cov ntaub ntawv tshaj lij los ntawm koj, koj yuav tsum ua raws li cov ntsiab lus tshwj xeeb uas piav qhia lub ntsiab lus ntawm cov ntsiab lus tseem ceeb thiab ua tiav.