Tus kws tshaj lij Asmeskas tus kws tshawb fawb Eric Berne, uas tau qhia tias qhov tseeb muaj peb "Kuv" hauv txhua tus neeg (niam txiv, neeg laus thiab menyuam yaus), tsis tau hais kom tib neeg ib txwm siv zog rau kev sib txuas lus ntawm qib: cov neeg laus- neeg laus. Nws sib cav tias peb tshuav qhov zoo tshaj plaws hauv peb tus kheej mus rau qhov pib me nyuam yaus. Cia irresponible, tej zaum touchy, tab sis ntau zaus nws tus kheej txaus thiab frivolously zoo siab. Lub ntsiab lus ntawm tsab xov xwm yog ib tug playful mus ob peb vas. Qhov no yog dab tsi? Thiab yuav ua li cas thiaj tsim tau yooj yim thiab lom zem rau lwm tus hu rau koj?
Definition
Yog koj nug tias tus menyuam koom nrog dab tsi, feem ntau yuav teb: "Nrog rau qhov kev ua si." Lub ntsiab lus ntawm lo lus no tuaj yeem yog "kev lom zem". Lub tswvyim ntawm "playful mus ob peb vas" txhais li cas hauv phau ntawv txhais lus? Lawv thov kom ua qhov no los ntawm kev xaiv cov lus zoo sib xws hauv lub ntsiab lus: "playful", "funny","txhob txhawj", "thusiastic".
Thaum tib neeg muaj lub siab zoo li no, nws yooj yim siv sijhawm nrog lawv, sib cuag, rov ua kom zoo. Peb yog subconsciously kos los sib txuas lus nrog cov neeg uas luag ntxhi thiab qhib. Yog tias muaj lub siab xav los ua tus neeg ntxim nyiam rau kev sib txuas lus, tsim kom muaj lub siab zoo nyob ib puag ncig koj, koj yuav tsum tau teb cov lus nug rau koj tus kheej: "Yuav ua li cas ua kom lub siab nyiam?".
Nws nta
Thaum cov niam txiv thaum yau qhia kom lawv cov ntxhais ua si ntau dua, vim tias yuav tsis muaj sijhawm thaum muaj hnub nyoog, lawv txawj ntse. Cov khoom ua si thiab cov neeg koom tes hloov pauv, tab sis lub hauv paus ntsiab lus ntawm kev lom zem thiab tsom tsis yog ntawm qhov tshwm sim, tab sis ntawm cov txheej txheem, tseem nyob. Ntau tus yuav paub txog lawv tus kheej thaum peb sau qee qhov "kev ua si" feem ntau: "qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws rau kuv tam sim no yog hluas nkauj"; "Kuv tsis txaus siab rau lwm tus lub tswv yim"; "Thiab kuv yuav tsis tau sib yuav." Fantasizing, tus ntxhais tshoov siab rau nws tus kheej tias hauv kev muaj tiag nws xav li ntawd, yog li nws flirt, ntsia, yog capricious.
Qhov zoo tshaj plaws yog qhov kev xav ua si ntawm thawj theem ua haujlwm thiab ua rau muaj kev txaus siab tiag tiag ntawm kev sib deev. Qhov tseem ceeb ntawm no yog tsis txhob poob qhov tseem ceeb thiab kev nkag siab ntawm qhov koj xav tau tiag tiag. Yog li, cia peb mus rau cov lus qhia.
Cia peb saib ob peb txoj cai tseem ceeb hauv av:
- Ib tug yuav tsum lees txais nws tus kheej txawm li cas los xijkev tsis zoo tag nrho. "Yog lawm, kuv rog dhau, tab sis kuv tab tom ua haujlwm kom poob phaus, thiab qhov no tseem ceeb dua. Yog li ntawd, kuv tsim nyog hwm."
- Tsi txhob tsom ntsoov rau tej teeb meem. Yog tias lawv tshwm sim, lawv yuav tsum tau daws, thiab tsis txhob nrhiav kev txhaum hauv ib puag ncig thiab muab txhua tus neeg rau lawv cov ntsiab lus.
- Kev xav tau tiag tiag los ntawm kev qia dub "Kuv xav tau". Koj tsis tuaj yeem nyob tsis muaj zaub mov, dej, vaj tse. Tab sis tsis tau hu hnub no, khoom plig rau 30 txhiab, txawm tias tsis muaj ib tug txiv neej tshwj xeeb … koj tuaj yeem nyob.
- Tsev lub luag haujlwm rau qhov tshwm sim hauv koj lub neej.
Cov lus qhia no yog ua haujlwm ntev rau koj tus kheej. Thiab koj tuaj yeem ua dab tsi ntawm no thiab tam sim no yog tias koj muaj kev sib tham romantic lossis ua si nrog phooj ywg?
- Nco txog cov tshuaj tiv thaiv ideomotor. Peb yuav tsum tau yuam lub cev kom txav mus los, zoo li yog tias peb lub siab twb sib raug rau qhov xav tau. Tsis npaj siab luag ntxhi? Tig lub ces kaum ntawm koj daim di ncauj, ncaj cov wrinkles ntawm koj lub hauv pliaj thiab nyob rau hauv ib pliag kev xyiv fab yuav los ntawm qhov chaw sab hauv.
- Tau qhov kev ua si uas koj xav ua si. Piv txwv li, "darling, Kuv hlub football heev." Npaj txhij, nco ntsoov tsawg kawg yog ob peb lub npe ntawm cov thawj coj thiab nrhiav cov pab pawg yeej ntawm kev sib tw hauv tebchaws.
- Cia koj tus kheej nrog cov khoom ua si-khoom ntxiv uas txhawb nqa koj. Nws tuaj yeem yog baubles, hairpins, cov khoom ua si mos-cov saw tseem ceeb.
- Nco lub siab ua si nrog cov nkauj tsim nyog nyeem hnub ua ntej tso dag lossis npaj ua ntejkev nthuav qhia tus kheej.
Tab sis txoj cai tseem ceeb tshaj plaws uas yuav tsum tau ua yog kom nres raws sijhawm. Yog tias qhov xwm txheej hu kom tig rau "tus neeg laus" hauv peb, peb yuav tsum ua raws. Yuav ua li cas yog hnub no lawv muab rau koj?
