Tej zaum ib qho ntawm qhov tsis pom kev zoo siab tshaj plaws yog cov quav hauv qhov tshwm sim. Npau suav txhais lus txawv qhov no. Qee lub sij hawm qhov no yog lub zeem muag zoo, thiab qee zaus tsis yog ntau. Yuav kom nkag siab lub ntsiab lus no, koj yuav tsum tig mus rau phau ntawv npau suav kom pab.
phau ntawv txhais lus niaj hnub
Yog li ntawd, ua cas npau suav ntawm quav? Phau ntawv npau suav ntawm xyoo pua 21st hais tias: yog tias ib tug neeg ua ib yam dab tsi nrog quav, ces qhov no yog kev vam khom rau ib tug neeg. Feem ntau qhov no "ib tug neeg" tam sim no ncaj qha hauv npau suav. Nyob rau hauv cov xwm txheej uas ib tug neeg tsuas pom zoo li no pov tseg nyob rau hauv ib tug npau suav los yog tsw, qhov no yog lub cim ntawm kev sib raug zoo nrog cov neeg nyob ib puag ncig nws. Nws yog qhov xav tau los xav tias lawv tsis zoo tag nrho. Phau ntawv txhais lus qhia koj kom xav txog qhov no thiab kho qhov xwm txheej - rau koj tus kheej zoo. Txawm hais tias feem ntau xws li kev npau suav txhais tau hais tias kev sib raug zoo tsis yog qhov phem tag nrho vim yog tus npau suav. Tsuas yog cov neeg tsis zoo nyob ib puag ncig nws.
Thaum ib tug neeg paub txog hauv kev npau suav tias ib pawg ntawm cov quav tau tso rau hauv qhov chaw thiab sim ua kom nws hnov qab, qhov no yog qhov kev sib cav ntawm qhov tseeb tias tsis ntev yuav tshwm sim hauv nws lub neej,uas cuam tshuam rau lub neej nyob ntsiag to.
Miller phau ntawv npau suav: quav thiab lawv lub ntsiab
Yog ib tug neeg pom cov quav, qhov no yog ib qho cim ntawm ib tug neeg tsis muaj zog. Nws nyob ntawm lwm tus, thiab qhov ntawd yog qhov tseeb. Yog li, ib yam dab tsi yuav tsum tau ua txog nws. Nws yog ib qho tsim nyog yuav tau tshem ntawm xws li ib tug pernicious cwj pwm. Koj yuav tsum pib txiav txim siab ywj pheej thiab hais tias "tsis yog" rau cov neeg xav tsis thoob uas tsuas yog zaum ntawm lawv caj dab thiab nyob ntawm nws tus nqi.
Nkag mus rau hauv quav lossis staining khaub ncaws nrog nws - kom nce nyiaj hli lossis nyiaj ntxiv. Daim paib no kuj ua haujlwm hauv lub neej tiag tiag - txawm li cas los xij, peb ntseeg nws. Tab sis thaum ib tug npau suav pom ib lub zeem muag nyob rau hauv uas, vim muaj tej yam mob uas tau overtaken nws, nws tsis tuaj yeem tso zis los yog quav, ces qhov no yog qhov phem. Losses - qhov ntawd yog qhov tos nws nyob rau yav tom ntej. Qhov no yog cov quav npau suav txog qhov no.
Miller phau ntawv npau suav kuj tseem hais tias yog thaum hmo ntuj ib tug neeg pom cov quav tsiaj, qhov no kuj yog ib qho txiaj ntsig. Nws tsuas yog ib qho tseem ceeb tsis txhob kov nws. Txwv tsis pub, nws yuav qhia cov lus xaiv cuav, tsis lees paub tib yam.
Raws li Freud
Kuj nthuav yog kev txhais ntawm dab tsi npau npau npau ntawm Freud phau ntawv npau suav. Yog tias ib tug neeg pom cov quav hauv qhov ntau, ces qhov no yog kev nce qib. Npau suav txog chav dej, chav dej lossis chav dej muaj lub ntsiab lus zoo sib xws. Txawm li cas los, muaj ib tug caveat. Yog hais tias nyob rau hauv ib tug npau suav ib tug neeg poob rau hauv ib tug nyob deb nroog chav dej thiab pib, muab nws me me, mus rau hauv dej hauv quav, ces qhov no yog ib qho teeb meem. Npau suav txhais lus qhia nyob rau hauv lub neej yav tom ntej kom tsis txhob ua pob khaus thiab ua raws li koj cov lus qhiathiab cov lus. Txhawm rau kom tsis txhob poob nyiaj poob haujlwm thiab pib suav cov kev poob tom qab, nws tseem tsim nyog tsis yuav ib yam dab tsi thiab khaws koj cov nyiaj nrog koj thiab tsis nqis peev lawv nyob qhov twg.
Lwm txhais lus
Thiab tsim nyog hais ob peb lo lus hais txog qee cov ntsiab lus uas phau ntawv npau suav qhia txog. Vim li cas npau suav ntawm quav? Yog hais tias ib tug neeg pom tag nrho pawg ntawm lawv - mus rau kev vam meej peev ntawm nws cov peev nyiaj txiag. Rakes quav tawm ntawm chav dej? Hmoov tsis zoo, ib tug yuav tsum ntshai tias tag nrho nws cov nyiaj yuav "scooped" ntawm nws lub hnab ris. Kev qias neeg hauv cov quav, tab sis ceev nrooj tshem tawm tsis yog ib qho cim zoo heev, tab sis tsis yog lub cim tsis zoo. Lawv sim denigrate ib tug neeg, tab sis cov ill-wishers yuav ua tsis tau. Tus npau suav yuav muaj kev txawj ntse thiab yooj yim tshem tawm ntawm kev hais lus ntxhi thiab sim los ntawm cov yeeb ncuab. Kev txhob txwm tshaj tawm mus rau hauv pawg txhais tau tias koj yuav tsum tsis txhob ua txhua yam kev ua lag luam tsis zoo (txawm tias muaj txiaj ntsig). Yuav tsis coj mus zoo.
Feem ntau, muaj ntau qhov kev txhais, thiab koj tuaj yeem pom nws. Thiab txhawm rau kom nkag siab qhov no lossis qhov npau suav ntawd, koj yuav tsum nrhiav kev pab los ntawm phau ntawv npau suav thiab mloog koj tus kheej txoj kev xav.
