Qhov phem tshaj plaws nyob rau hauv lub neej ntawm ib tug twg yog kev poob ntawm cov neeg nyob ze nws, lawv tuag. Lawv ib txwm tawm ntawm kev npaj txhij txog, thiab tsis tuaj yeem npaj rau qhov no. Nws yog ib qho nyuaj tshwj xeeb tshaj yog thaum muaj kev tu siab xws li kev tuag ntawm leej txiv lossis tus txiv poob rau tsev neeg. Ces tus poj niam thiaj cia cov me nyuam nyob ib leeg.
Tsis muaj ib tug yuav tso tau ib tug neeg ntawm lawv tus hlub, tsev neeg lossis phooj ywg tso tseg. Kev tuag yeej ib txwm yog tib neeg kev txom nyem, kua muag thiab kev puas siab puas ntsws nyob rau hauv daim ntawv ntawm kev nyuaj siab thiab lwm yam. Yog tias cov neeg laus tseem tuaj yeem, tom qab ib ntus, lees txais qhov poob, ces qhov no tsis yooj yim rau menyuam yaus. Kab lus no yuav tham txog yuav ua li cas thiaj ciaj sia txiv tuag rau ib tug me nyuam, yuav ua li cas pab nws nrog no.
Nws ua tsis tau! Kuv tsis ntseeg nws
Thaum xov xwm ntawm leej txiv tuag tam sim no tau tshaj tawm rau nws cov txheeb ze, thawj qhov uas lawv xav tias yog qhov tsis lees paub qhov xwm txheej tam sim no, zoo li lawv qhov no tsuas yog npau suav xwb, tsis yog qhov tseeb. qhov no tsis tuaj yeem tshwm sim rau lawv.
Kev tsis lees paub yog kev tiv thaiv ntawm tus neeg, yog li nws yuav tsis muaj kev xav, tsis quaj, vim nws tsis paub txog qhov tshwm sim. Rau nwsnws yuav siv sij hawm me ntsis los ua nws lub siab thiab lees txais nws txiv txoj kev ncaim mus. Yog tias cov neeg laus ua ntej tsis lees paub qhov tseeb ntawm qhov tshwm sim, ces lawv yeej tsis paub tias muaj dab tsi tshwm sim hauv tus menyuam lub siab. Yog li ntawd, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev uas yuav tsum tau pab nws kom tsis txhob thim rov qab rau hauv nws tus kheej, thiab tsis txhob muaj kev puas siab puas ntsws uas yuav ua rau nws nyob hauv nws lub neej.
Txoj kev tuag ntawm leej txiv rau tus menyuam
Yog hais tias cov neeg laus raug cov xov xwm phem ncaj qha, tsis muaj coob leej neeg paub yuav piav qhia rau cov me nyuam tias leej txiv yuav tsis rov qab los tsev, thiab tseem ceeb tshaj, yuav ua li cas nplij lawv. Xav paub ntxiv txog qhov no tom qab. Tom qab tus txiv tuag lawm, tus me nyuam yuav coj txawv txawv. Nws tsis yog ib txwm ua tau kom nkag siab tias nws xav li cas. Qee tus menyuam yaus pib quaj, lwm tus nug ntau yam, vim lawv tsis paub tias txiv yuav tsis nrog nws li cas, nws kuj tshwm sim tias lawv tsis hais dab tsi, thiab txhua yam kev xav tau tshwm sim hauv tus cwj pwm.
Koj tuaj yeem xav tias muaj qee yam tsis ncaj ncees nrog kev hloov pauv sai thiab tsis tsim nyog ntawm tus menyuam lub siab, yog tias tam sim no nws mob siab rau qhov kev ua si thiab zoo li ntsiag to, tom qab ob peb feeb nws los kua muag. Cov menyuam yaus poob rau lub sijhawm ntev heev, yog li lawv tus cwj pwm tsis tuaj yeem kwv yees.
Thaum tus me nyuam paub txog kev tuag ntawm nws txiv, nws tseem ceeb heev tsis txhob cia nws nyob ib leeg, ua tib zoo saib xyuas ntau li ntau tau. Cov me nyuam yaus yuav tsum to taub tias, tau poob lawv txiv, lawv tseem muaj lawv niam. Nws yog tus uas yuav tiv thaiv thiab hlub lawv. Nws yuav tsum hnov txhua lub sijhawm uas muaj ib tus niam txiv nyob ntawm nws.
Niam tom qab txiv tuag yuav tsum qhia tias nws hlub nws tus me nyuam npaum li cas,thiab hais tias nws yuav tsum tsis txhob ntshai nws lub kua muag thaum poob. Nws yuav tsum tau npaj rau qhov tseeb tias cov menyuam yaus yuav pib da dej rau nws cov lus nug txog kev tu siab uas tau poob. Ib tug poj niam yuav tsum ua siab ntev thiab teb rau tus menyuam, txawm tias qhov nyuaj tshaj plaws, tsis txaus ntseeg thiab mob siab rau. Cov kev xav paub zoo li no tsis cuam tshuam nrog kev tsis quav ntsej, tab sis ua rau tus tub lossis tus ntxhais nkag siab txog qhov tshwm sim thiab lees txais nws. Yog li ntawd, kev sib tham yuav tsum tshwm sim yam tsis tau poob, thiab koj yuav tsum tsis txhob tawm lossis ncua nws.
Kev ua phem tom qab tuag
Yog tias tom qab nws txiv tuag lawm, tus tub tsis mloog nws niam, coj tus cwj pwm phem, ua phem, ces nws yuav tsum ua siab ntev. Tab sis nyob rau hauv tsis muaj cov ntaub ntawv tsis txhob cem nws. Koj tuaj yeem sim nrog nws ua siab ntev.
Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom nkag siab tias, thaum kawm txog kev tuag, tus me nyuam nws tus kheej pib ntshai tuag lossis raug tso tseg yam tsis muaj leej niam leej txiv thib ob, yog li nws tus cwj pwm hnyav tshwm sim nws tus kheej. Ntawm no nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev uas yuav tau tham nrog nws, paub txog nws txoj kev ntshai, thiab ua kom nws zoo siab li sai tau.
Nyob rau hauv qhov xwm txheej uas, ntxiv rau kev ua phem, kuj muaj kev tsis zoo ntawm kev noj qab haus huv lossis kev sib txawv ntawm tus cwj pwm ib txwm nyob nruab hnub, piv txwv li, tus menyuam pib nkees sai, nres noj, tso nws cov khoom ua si uas nws nyiam, hla tsev kawm ntawv, ces qhov no yog ib qho laj thawj tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum tig mus rau tus kws kho mob hlwb rau menyuam yaus. Koj yuav tsum tsis txhob tso tseg mus ntsib kws kho mob.
Qee zaum ib tug me nyuam yuav cem nws tus kheej rau nws txiv tuag, vim nws ib zaug hais ib yam dab tsi phem rau nws, xws li "Kuv tsis hlub koj" los yog "Kuv xav kom kuv muaj lwm leej txiv" los yog cov lus zoo sib xws. Tsis tas li ntawd, cov menyuam yaus tuaj yeem nkag siab qhov kev tso tseg ntawm ib tus niam txiv yog lawv lub txim rau qhov tsis ualawv cov lus thov, tsis teb cov lus, thiab lwm yam.
Tus me nyuam yuav muaj kev txhaum txawm tias nws tsis tuaj yeem nkag siab nws tus kheej. Yog li ntawd, nws yuav tsum tau tham nrog cov menyuam yaus txog lawv cov kev paub dhau los thiab sim piav qhia rau lawv tias qhov no txhais li cas thiab vim li cas nws tshwm sim. Nws tsim nyog tuav kev sib tham tam sim tom qab lub ntees tuag thiab tom qab ib hlis lossis ob zaug kom paub tseeb tias nws muaj peev xwm muaj sia nyob tsis muaj leej niam leej txiv.
Yuav ua li cas? Yuav pab tus menyuam li cas?
Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum tau saib xyuas koj tus menyuam kom zoo, vim tias rau rau lub hlis tom ntej, tus menyuam tom qab nws txiv tuag yuav coj tus cwj pwm txawv txawv, vim tias cov kev paub dhau los mus rau theem pathological. Qhov no tuaj yeem lees paub los ntawm qhov muaj cov tsos mob uas tsis ploj mus ntev. Koj yuav tsum ceev faj yog tias tus me nyuam tsis qhia qhov kev xav tau ntev, los yog, ntawm qhov tsis sib xws, qhia tau meej heev. Lwm lub cim yog qhov tsis kam mus kawm ntawv, lossis cov qhab nia zoo tau hloov mus rau qhov tsis zoo. Cov tsos mob ntawm kev npau taws, tantrums, qw, ntshai thiab phobias yog ib qho laj thawj zoo rau mus rau tus kws kho mob hlwb los kho cov kab mob ntawm tus me nyuam txoj kev txom nyem rau kev poob ntawm nws txiv.
Yog cov me nyuam tsis xav tham txog txiv los yog ua tsis tau, tsis txaus siab rau lub neej, thim rov qab rau hauv lawv tus kheej, tsis txhob sib txuas lus nrog phooj ywg, ces yuav tsum tau kev pab kho mob ceev.
Txoj kev tuag ntawm leej txiv tuaj yeem tsav tus menyuam mus rau kev nyuaj siab ntev, nws kho siab, tso tseg. Tau ntsib qhov poob thaum yau, yav tom ntej nws yuav cuam tshuam rau lub neej ntawm cov menyuam yaus, lawv cov haujlwm ua haujlwm thiab tus cwj pwm tag nrho.
Yog tus me nyuam pom tus txiv thiabphooj ywg, txaus siab rau nws, sim xyaum, ces rau nws nws yuav yog ib tug ob lub tshuab thiab poob lub neej txoj kev, tsis muaj ib tug yuav sib npaug.
Ua rau hnub txiv tuag
Vim txiv tuag tseem ceeb heev. Thaum tsis muaj dab tsi foreshadowed nws poob, nws tsis mob, ces qhov no yog qhov nyuaj tshaj plaws rau tsev neeg, vim hais tias lub tshuab ntawm txoj hmoo tshwm sim poob nthav. Yog hais tias ib tug txiv neej tua tus kheej, ces cov neeg nws hlub yuav liam lawv tus kheej rau txhua yam thiab xav tsis thoob vim li cas nws ua li no rau lawv.
Ib daim ntawv loj loj hauv siab ntawm tus menyuam tawm qhov tseeb tias nws pom kev tuag. Lub hlwb raug kev txom nyem heev los ntawm qhov nws pom thiab ib qho tsis tuaj yeem ua yam tsis muaj kws kho mob, vim nws yuav txav mus rau lub sijhawm no hauv nws lub cim xeeb lossis pom nws hauv npau suav, thiab tos txog hnub nws txiv tuag nrog kev ntshai. Yuav nyuaj npaum li cas rau tus me nyuam kom tiv nrog kev poob ntawm txiv feem ntau yog nyob ntawm nws lub hnub nyoog, tus cwj pwm, thiab seb nws puas tau ploj lawm yav tas los cov txheeb ze los tsis.
Tus me nyuam hnub nyoog qis dua 5 xyoos ua li cas nrog kev tu siab?
Hnub nyoog cuam tshuam li cas rau kev nkag siab ntawm kev poob txiv? Yuav ua li cas tus me nyuam yuav txais qhov poob yog nyob ntawm nws lub hnub nyoog. Cov menyuam yaus, cov menyuam kawm ntawv thiab cov tub ntxhais hluas muaj kev nyuaj siab li cas? Ib tug me nyuam hnub nyoog qis dua 2 xyoos tsis tuaj yeem paub tias muaj ib qho tsis tuaj yeem ua rau niam txiv poob. Tab sis nws yuav xav tias nws niam nyob rau hauv lub siab phem, thiab lwm tus neeg nyob hauv lub tsev tsis luag nyav rau nws ib yam li yav dhau los. Xav txog qhov no, tus menyuam feem ntau pib quaj, qw thiab noj tsis zoo. Lub cev, qhov no tuaj yeem tshwm sim raws li cov quav tsis zoo thiab tso zis ntau zaus.
Ib tug me nyuam hnub nyoog 2 xyoos paub tias niam txiv hu tau yog tias lawv tsis nyob ib puag ncig. Lub tswv yim ntawm kev tuag rau nws lub hnub nyoog no tsis nco qab. Tab sis qhov tseeb tias nws hu ua txiv, tab sis nws tsis tuaj, tuaj yeem ua rau nws ntxhov siab heev. Niam yuav tsum nyob ib puag ncig tus me nyuam nrog kev hlub thiab kev saib xyuas, nrog rau muab khoom noj kom zoo thiab pw tsaug zog zoo, ces nws yuav yooj yim rau nws tiv nrog kev poob.
Cov me nyuam muaj hnub nyoog 3 txog 5 xyoos twb ua niam txiv tsis tuaj lawm tiag, yog li ntawd lawv yuav tsum tau piav me ntsis ntxiv tias txiv yuav tsis nrog nws nyob lawm. Muaj qhov tshwm sim ntau uas tus menyuam yaus yuav muaj kev ntshai thiab phobias, nws yuav nquag quaj, tej zaum yuav muaj kev tsis txaus siab ntawm mob taub hau lossis hauv plab. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev kom sib txuas lus nrog tus me nyuam kom ntau li ntau tau, nco ntsoov nrog nws lub sijhawm zoo siab nrog txiv, saib cov duab.
Cov menyuam yaus muaj kev nyuaj siab li cas thaum muaj 6-8 xyoo?
Ib tug me nyuam hnub nyoog 6 txog 8 xyoo yog ib tug menyuam kawm ntawv uas, hauv kev sib txuas lus nrog cov phooj ywg, qhia lawv txog lawv niam lawv txiv. Yog li ntawd, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tau pab cov me nyuam npaj rau cov lus nug, koj txiv nyob qhov twg? Koj yuav tsum qhia nws kom teb luv luv, nrog ib kab lus, "Nws tuag." Tab sis yuav ua li cas nws tshwm sim yog zoo dua tsis txhob qhia rau lwm tus. Tus me nyuam yuav coj tus cwj pwm phem nrog cov phooj ywg thiab tus kws qhia, yog li tseem ceeb ceeb toom tus kws qhia txog qhov tshwm sim kom nws saib xyuas nws.
Kev nyuaj siab ntawm tus menyuam hnub nyoog 9 - 12 xyoos
Cov menyuam yaus hnub nyoog 9 txog 12 xyoos xav ua ywj siab, ua txhua yam lawv tus kheej. Tab sis qhov poob ntawm lawv txiv instills nyob rau hauv lawv lub siab ntawm kev pab. Lawv muajMuaj ntau lo lus nug xws li: "Leej twg yuav tsav nws mus kawm ntawv?", "Leej twg yuav mus ncaws pob nrog nws?" thiab zoo li. Kev xav ntawm tus tub tej zaum yuav yog tam sim no nws tsuas yog tus txiv neej hauv tsev neeg thiab yuav tsum saib xyuas txhua tus. Hauv qhov no, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum tau pab nws kom tsis txhob tso nws cov khoom ua si thiab thaum yau, mus rau kev laus, tab sis kom nyob twj ywm tsis tu ncua ntev.
Teenager's tu siab
Lub hnub nyoog nyuaj tshaj plaws rau menyuam yaus yog qhov tseem hluas. Lub sijhawm no, lawv twb muaj kev nyuaj siab heev thiab mus dhau lub sijhawm nyuaj, thiab tau poob lawv txiv, lawv tsis muaj kev ntxhov siab kiag li. Cov tub ntxhais hluas pib nrhiav lub tuam txhab phem, nyiag luam yeeb thiab haus cawv, thiab tseem phem dua, sim tshuaj. Thaum lub hnub nyoog no, cov menyuam yaus zais lawv txoj kev xav ntawm lwm tus, thiab feem ntau nyob ntsiag to. Tab sis sab hauv lawv txhawj xeeb heev, qee zaum ncav cuag kev sim tua tus kheej. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau tus tub hluas yuav tsum tau saib xyuas, saib xyuas thiab kev hlub, kom nws paub tias nws tuaj yeem nrhiav kev txhawb nqa hauv nws niam.
Small xaus
Txawm hais tias tus me nyuam muaj hnub nyoog li cas, tsuas yog niam txiv uas tseem tshuav yuav txiav txim siab seb nws txoj sia nyob li cas, thiab nws lub neej yuav zoo li cas tom qab nws txiv tuag. Qhov tseem ceeb yog ib puag ncig cov menyuam yaus nrog kev saib xyuas thiab kev hlub. Koj yuav tsum tham ntau zaus txog lawv cov kev paub dhau los, siv sijhawm tag nrho koj lub sijhawm dawb nrog lawv, thiab yog tias koj pom muaj kev sib txawv ntawm tus cwj pwm lossis kev noj qab haus huv, nrhiav kev pab los ntawm kws kho mob.
